[Warded to Miriam]
Hello, my lovely - I am ashamed to say I can't remember which schedule you're on this week, so I'm put in the position of having to ask if you're free this evening. My new housemate is going to be playing Sinatra and such in a Muggle lounge tonight, which ought to be good and safe because it's a random location, and it's been much too long since I got to dance with you. Interested?
[end ward]
There's been a lot of talk about cooking and men on this journal business lately, and I feel compelled to stand up and say: People with sons, teach your boys to cook.
Because seriously, it's not our fault that we get conditioned to think that cooking is girly or poncey and whatnot. We've got the whole world and our families sort of sideways-telling-us that our whole lives. So then we find ourselves out on our own, and more and more of us not getting married straight out of Hogwarts, and we find ourselves sitting there staring at a stovetop wondering what the devil all that is.
So then we start living on takeaway, and for a little while, that's fun. You go all "Woooooo! I'm an adult! I can eat whatever I want! No one can stop me! I will live exclusively on pizza (which I ALONE will choose toppings for!) or I'll order 15 EGG ROLLS just to see how many I can eat, and then I'll eat fish 'n chips for lunch FOUR DAYS IN A ROW because I DARE YOU TO STOP ME! BAM! ADULT!"
But that loses its charm. You go broke so very fast, and then you realize that your body just doesn't destroy fat the way it used to when you were 17. And then you find yourself just actually wanting real food. You start to come up with creative excuses to show up at your sister's house because all you want in the world is an actual fucking vegetable. Because seriously, do you know how hard it is, as a man, to say "Hello, world, I would like to learn the wand-wavings that turn groceries into dinner"? People go "Oooooooh, are we trying to impress the ladies?" or "NO, I'M NOT GOING TO SHAG YOU" or "How does a grown adult not know how to boil water and put pasta in it? Are you perhaps mentally damaged?" or "Gaaaaaaaay." And then you have to hang your head in shame and hope someone will take pity on you and invite you to dinner sometime soon.
So what I'm saying is, people, teach your kids to cook. All your kids. Not just the girl ones. You cannot guarantee that the instant your son leaves your house there will be a lady just dying to make him dinner, and just because you have a house elf doesn't mean he will. It's an important skill, people. Everyone should be able to feed themselves. At least give us a fighting chance by not telling us that cooking is for girls.